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Julia Onken: Älterwerden macht nicht nur Spaß

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While there can be many reasons for any repetition compulsion, many women discover that at the base of their original lies a longing to be seen and loved by their father when they were young. Julia Onken erzählt in ihrem Vortrag über die äußere Wirklichkeit, die der Vergänglichkeit, dem Alter unterworfen ist und die innere Wirklichkeit, die sich jung anfühlt, leicht und froh. But now my self-esteem is improving by doing good things for others, and as Im becoming more happy by doing this, my aging father seem to be more nice to me now. When boys look to their mothers, they have a greater likelihood of finding unconditional love. This longing was already painfully frustrated then.

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Julia Onken: Älterwerden macht nicht nur Spaß

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It is important to note, however, that assigning blame is not my purpose in this post. But traditionally — and fortunately this is improving with every generation — females appear more willing and able to love unconditionally, while males may expect something before they accept and fully embrace their children. She also writes nonfiction books, including some bestsellers that have been translated into numerous languages. Unfortunately, the ability to hope and keep struggling against all odds can also lead to the inability to see clearly, let go, and move on. Why am I doing this to myself? Before we allow ourselves to become fully conscious of not having received ample , we transfer our need onto others with similar attributes and keep on the search. Things he said to me penetrated my heart and I felt very damaged and felt very lost about what type of woman I wanted to be.

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Julia Onken

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Human beings are great at harboring hope. Verloren ist man, insbesondere als Frau im Alter, wenn man weiterhin auf das äußere Erscheinungsbild setzt und meint, man müsste attraktiv sein, um beim männlichen Betrachter Begehren auszulösen. She has worked as a psychologist in prisons, in adult education, and as a therapist in private practice. It is a futile attempt to finally receive that which feels so essential in life. . Pleasing men is a definite favorite for trying to elicit love, because of being least threatening and most supported by the male-dominated advertisement industry.

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Julia Onken: Älterwerden macht nicht nur Spaß

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It is, however, specific to women that so many look to the parent of the other and find only conditional love, if any. It is interesting how the father-daughter relationship has not often been the focus of psychologists who try to understand why women have difficulties in their heterosexual relationships. Mothers, on the other hand, are often held responsible for every psychological, if not physiological, symptom. Our partners are no longer needed to fill our empty heart; the struggle with the surrogates can end. Truth is, we can live without what we needed in the past. It is not specific to women to hold onto longing and pretend that the impossible is still possible.

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Julia Onken: Älterwerden macht nicht nur Spaß

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What we need today is our own unconditional love — radical acceptance of self and complete and kind attention. Instead of judging women who do not live to please men, who are relaxed about their and need not excel at everything they do or compulsively defy authority, we can learn from them. It is critical for women to ask themselves what they were missing from their fathers in their youth and what strategies they used, and may still use, to elicit male attention. Ihre befreiende Erkenntnis: Ich muss niemandem mehr gefallen. Women learn quickly what men want and become dependent on beauty products to feel secure enough to maneuver their world. As fantasy fades, true begins.

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Julia Onken

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A critical reader may now object and point out that many mothers are incapable of unconditional love. Vatermänner: Ein Bericht über die Vater-Tochter Beziehung und ihren Einfluß auf die Partnerschaft. I know I will end up in the same predicament as always, but something inside of me takes over. Indeed, females can be quite unloving and cruel to their sons as well. Letting go of our to get what we needed a long time ago is painful, but with the help of other women, we can do it.

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Help, I Married My Father

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Julia Onken began studying at the Academy of Applied Psychology in Zurich after the birth of her second child. Felt like something was always missing and as if there was an emptiness inside me. . . .

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Julia Onken: Älterwerden macht nicht nur Spaß

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